Alexander Technique, self-acceptance, and love

I sometimes say that the Alexander Technique comes down to a practice of love. The Technique is based on non-doing, which results in self-acceptance, without grasping or reacting. And this enables us to be with another free of judgments and expectations.

So what do I mean by love?

Love is:

  • I see you
  • I accept you as you are
  • I respect you and your choices
  • I connect with you
  • I give you space
  • I give you time
  • I believe you have the right to take up space, to be here, as you are – or to choose not to
  • I respect you enough to share my feelings and thoughts honestly
  • I am serious with you, and take you seriously
  • I want to be with you

Love is not:

  • I’m not jealous of you
  • I’m not in competition with you
  • I don’t have anything to prove to you, but strive to be the best I can be
  • I don’t judge you
  • I don’t resent you
  • I don’t anticipate judgment or rejection from you

Compare passion:

  • I need you
  • I can’t get enough of you
  • I am turned on by you
  • You complete me
  • I am fulfilled by you
  • I idealise you

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